Hello 2017! We have a full slate of activities going as always. New to the group? Check out the Monthly Gathering, the PolyLounge or start off at our small group (4 people, plus a host) Coffee Amory.
Solo Poly Peeps/Relationship Anarchists– In Janurary, PolyColumbus will be hosting a meet up with a discussion just for you. First meeting is 1-17-17. Details on the calendar, in the Facebook Group and on meet up. Hope to see you there.
The 2017 Monthly Gathering Topics are as follows:
January 9, 2017 – Models/styles of poly : thoughts, experiences, challenges
February 13, 2017 – Love is in the Air: Navigating NRE, loss of a partner, shifts in dynamics
March 13, 2017 – Identities : poly, gender, ethnicity, orientation , income : how do they interact with each other
April 10, 2017 – Health care focus group & Open Topic/Discussion
May 8, 2017 – Say what you mean, mean what you say — communicating clearly
June 12, 2017 – S*x in the Poly City: How to explore physical intimacy and safeguard your health
July 10, 2017 – Potluck! Fishbowl
August 14, 2017 – Am I doing it right, the myths about poly perfection
September 11, 2017 – Talking Poly: How, Why, If and When to disclose
October 9, 2017 – 3 sisters: jealous, envy & compersion
November 13, 2017 – Ethics in poly: principles, values & beliefs
December 11, 2017 – Potluck! Fishbowl!
Further details are available on our calendar and on Meet Up.
This is a common question and was part of the Monthly Gathering Discussion Topic for February. As we have grown, we have gotten a bit lax about covering our Monthly Gathering rules. In the past we kicked off the Monthly Gathering with the following guidelines:
- No cross talking
- No offering advice unless it is specifically requested
- Respect everyone’s right to confidentiality
- Group is a support group/network and not a dating service
I wrote about number 4 in 2012 on my blog. You can find that post here. I still feel that way today– only we have grown and with growth comes change. When these guidelines were created, we only had the Monthly Gathering and maybe a random summer picnic. Times have changed. Saturday night we had a dance with over 80 people in attendance.
So here is how you meet people at PolyColumbus Events. Go to events designed for meeting people and making connections. Go to the PolyLounge. Join the Group at the upcoming PolyColumbus Eats Out! Check out game night. When the group meets up around town– go.
Go to one of the two after the Monthly Gathering Socials. Those social events are designed to build relationships of all kinds. These events help build friendships and community, they are times that you can share a conversation and get to know someone better. Yes, they are times that flirting can and does occur.
The Monthly Gathering and educational events are designed to support and educate all our community members. Some of our community members may not be looking to add partners now or ever. It is important that we have spaces where the pick up lines and flirting gets checked at the door. Just as it is as important, that we host events that are safe and welcoming places for making connections.
It is also important to note that one of our Core Values is Consent.
Consent is the foundation of ethical intimate relationships. We model consent that is enthusiastic, fully informed, and free of coercion.
This is all we ask members and visitors to remember. Have consent. Be aware. There is a difference in making connections and/or asking someone to coffee vs. creating an environment where someone feels uncomfortable. If someone seems uninterested or uncomfortable, stop. Disengage.
Asking for consent can be hard and it is true, our community is trying to change and embrace changing gender roles with respect to dating. We are redefining for ourselves what relationships look like and how they are structured. We are seeking to model consent based relationships in all their complexity and beauty. If you aren’t sure. Ask. It might feel strange at first, but it is how we balance a varied range of needs in a welcoming and safe way. Be open to asking for consent and be prepared to accept graciously a “No.”
It is also important to note, that not everyone is as open, as experienced with, sure about, or interested in building new connections. Respect that. We are on a journey, a highly personal journey.
In addition to honoring our Core Value of Consent, we aim to find balance with respect to another Core Value – Inclusion.
We all bring different life experiences and perspectives to our relationships. We take affirmative steps to make our organization’s services and support equally accessible to all who desire it, not simply in principle but also in fact.
The balance is tricky. Having every space be one where flirting is endorsed tends to exclude people that view that attention as both unwanted and unwelcome. Having all spaces that we gather as a community as flirting free zones, hinders our ability to meet others, form relationships, and help others on their journey.
Bottom line: The Monthly Gathering and PolyColumbus Educational Events are still a flirt free zone. Our Social Events are more relaxed and are exactly the places we hope you make connections and experience the vibrant and interesting community that we are. We fully expect you will make a friend or two and maybe more.
Welcome to 2016!
As lovely as we thought Whetstone would be, it was more or less an echo chamber. It was centrally located and allowed us have room to grow — if only we could hear each other.
With the opening of The Space, we have a new home for our Monthly Gathering. We have given up the central location, for a better more versatile meeting space. We are going to try it out.
Are you unfamiliar with Broad Street near Mt. Carmel East? Never fear! We have turn-by-turn directions with photos.
With this shift, we will also have a slight change in the hours of the meeting.
Monthly Gatherings will now be from 7:15 pm to 8:45 pm at The Space. Doors will not be open until 7:00 pm. There are a number of great places to eat very near The Space. We will also be having our After the Meeting Social at a restaurant/bar just minutes from The Space.
So come Monday, January 11, 2016 to check out the new meeting space and to throw your topic into the FISH BOWL. We will be discussing as many as we can and keeping some of the great ones for future meetings.
Questions about the directions? Contact Susan (email@example.com). For questions about the monthly meetings contact Carlos (firstname.lastname@example.org)
See you Monday!
Actually– lots of people RSVP… alot. With the vast majority of Social Media — an RSVP is as much an announcement of intentions as it is a hand raised, saying count me in.
And therein lies the problem.
PolyColumbus is committed to being on a wide variety of social media sites, because we know our members, fans, friends, and lurkers are on a variety of social media sites. Some folks gravitate to Meet Up and others Facebook. Others still are on Fetlife, so that they keep their kink and poly life off the Facebook.
PolyColumbus is not the social media police. Really– we get it. We are all OUT in different ways and to varying degrees. It is all good.
Except– in the past year we have had several events– where we have had absolutely no idea how many people are coming. Maybe 5 and Maybe 15. [and 35 show up!] Some of you social animals are RSVPing all over the place. We love that, the free publicity is exactly what we want, it is why we are on Social Media! Until we go to figure out the headcount and end up scratching our heads.
Is Bob DaisyChain the same as Chains In Flowers– hey do those photos match?
I don’t know… they have friends in common, maybe? What do you think?
What we think is we need some way to keep the social media RSVP/publicity/hey friends, I am going here magic alive and provide our event planners and committees with a better way to keep track of people, so that we make appropriate venue choices, can reserve tables at cool places to eat, and take advantage of group discounts, which keeps our events affordable for all.
And therefore, we are adopting a new RSVP strategy.
- Events will be listed on Meet Up, The Facebook Public Page, The Facebook Closed Group, and Fetlife. Please RSVP there. This is a great way to help us get the word out, keep it on your personal social radar, and show people in these public venues that we are a fun, hip, happening group– with really cool events. Sharing is caring! (Please do share our event posts far and wide– on a poly group on FB, share, share, share!)
- The official event head count will be handled through Brown Paper Ticket. BPT is a great organization and the service is free for events with no cost. If our event has a cost, the fees are modest and the processing safe and secure. The advantages are many. An accurate headcount, reports mailed to us. It will ease the burden of arranging events like camping trips and dinners out on the town. It will also make prepaid events easier and more budget friendly for us.
- Did I mention easy. All events posted will have a link to BPT. Just click, get your tix and we are ready to PARTY.
- On occasion we will use Sign Up Genius for special events, like potlucks, PRIDE, and other volunteer opportunities.
Our members and fans are the best. Really, you have adapted to all our changes in 2015 and 2016 is shaping up to be the best year yet! With several of these changes implemented, we are poised to plan some really amazing experiences. We hope that you continue to join us!
THE OCTOBER MONTHLY GATHERING
This month– we will have three smaller gatherings at the same time. The Whetstone Shelter house is not available due to the Columbus Day Holiday.
For those members who are staff or would like to become staff there will be a meeting hosted by Karen and Neil. If you have not talked to a board member about being on staff and would like to learn more about staff positions– please contact Karen or Neil for an invitation.
For the monthly gathering– we will be meeting in two locations– one south and one northwest.
Winking Lizard Tavern
1380 Bethel Rd
Columbus, OH 43220
115 Parsons Ave
Columbus, Ohio 43215
The goal is to have our normal monthly discussion and check out alternative social gathering/meeting spots.
Watch Facebook and our blog for additional information.
In November, we are back to business as usual.
Questions? email email@example.com
Part of our mission as an organization is to seek to support communities where we have overlapping membership and overlapping mission. Several of our members and board members are connected to Columbus’s Bisexual & Queer Communities. BiLocal is an organization dedicated to making bisexuality more visible in our community.
This month they have two very different and very important events happening.
The event is at the Columbus Public Health Department, 240 Parsons Avenue, Columbus, Ohio 43215. It starts at 6:30 pm. It is focused on health and access to competent health care that address the concerns of bisexual people in our community.
September 25: Bigger, Funner, Sexier BiPride Celebration
This event is at Wall Street, 144 N. Wall Street, Columbus, Ohio 43215. Tickets are available through Eventbrite and at the door. The event is from 7:00 pm-10:00 pm.
Several PolyColumbus members and board members will be attending. It is a great time to head out, support our community and have a great Friday!
For more information about either event, use the links above to contact BiLocal directly or contact a member of the board!
“The Practice of Polyamory: Cultivating Freedom and Non-Possession in Intimate Relationships”
Sat, September 5, 2-4pm
What do we desire and require from our intimate relationships? What does freedom mean, in the context of a romantic and/or sexual union? What is our definition of commitment? How does the Buddhist concept of impermanence affect how we love and are loved? We will discuss these, and other probing questions, in this dynamic afternoon gathering at the CIC. Dr. Anya will share from her new book, Opening Love: Intentional Relationships & the Evolution of Consciousness, and lead dialogue about how to cultivate intentional, open, and poly relationships based on the principles of freedom and non-possession. At the conclusion of the meeting, Dr. Anya will be available to sign your copy of Opening Love.
Suggested donation: $3-$5 for Rev. Dawn and the CIC, in gratitude for the use of space
Anya Trahan (“Dr. Anya”) is a healer, teacher, relationship coach, and writer. Her nonfiction book, Opening Love: Intentional Relationships & the Evolution of Consciousness, is a cornerstone of the global polyamory movement. She is a certified Reiki Master and holds a PhD in English.
Please RSVP to the Facebook Event. RSVP is not required but is helpful and will impact chair placement.
Copies of Dr. Anya’s book are available on Amazon.com and other fine retailers. Copies will be available the day of the reading.
We are pleased to announce our first PolyPartner event upcoming on August 8th. If you are an annual or lifetime paid member of PolyColumbus, you are eligible for a 10% discount. Please contact Karen at firstname.lastname@example.org for the discount code.
To sign up go here. Seating is limited, so registered early to make sure you don’t miss out on this great workshop.
And now the EVENT!!!!
Join Dan & dawn for a full day of polyamory!
Dan & dawn have presented 100’s of classes and workshops over the past decade. They have been practicing polyamory for the past 15 years and are taking the full day “Polyamory Plain & Simple” intensive on the road to share it with as many people as they can.
In one very full afternoon, they will cover:
- Building a Foundation
- Jealousy & Compersion
- Eight Poly Tools
- Joys of Polyamory
- Poly flirting – tricks to finding partners that really fit
PolyColumbus and HCCO have teamed up to co-sponser:
Sex and Sexism in Ancient Rome: Crossroads of Sexual Freedom & State Oppression
A talk given by Richard Carrier, Ph.D.
Tuesday, July 14, 2015
7:00 -9:00 pm
2250 N High, Columbus, Ohio 43202
YOU MUST RSVP via Facebook or Meet Up— Please do not comment here on this post. Please do RSVP– as we may move to a larger venue if we reach max capacity at the Kafe.
Richard Carrier, Ph.D. (ancient history, Columbia University) will discuss several aspects of open sexuality and the policing of sexuality in Ancient Rome, and their connection to the stark sexism and mild homophobia of this pre-Christian time. Sexism and homophobia in this era were less products of religion and more products of secular attitudes. Even in the face of state and social attempts to oppress sexual expression, the universality of fascinating human sexual choices still shined through.
Carrier will illustrate these points with intriguing and (at times) ribald stories about demonesses in the Talmud, priestesses with strap-ons, bisexual MMFs, and how many men the law said you had to sleep with to be legally qualified as a whore (with the attendant consequences). Yet many things, such as consensual, public, gender-equal non-monogamy, remained taboo. “When in Rome…” the saying goes, but what were the common features of what (or who) you could do while in Ancient Rome, without risking severe sanction?
Note: This talk will include explicit discussions of human sexuality and sexual thoughts and practices, given from a sex-positive, consent-focused, GLBT-inclusive perspective. Given the nature of the talk, we respectfully ask that you leave the kids at home.
This talk is co-sponsored by the Humanist Community of Central Ohio and PolyColumbus. Admission is free for dues-paid members of those organizations. For all others, an $8 donation following the talk is suggested to help cover Dr. Carrier’s honorarium.
We request all attendees purchase a beverage from the Kafe in appreciation for the free venue. Rick Carrier will be available through 9 p.m. to answer questions from the group and engage in follow-up discussions.
PLEASE RSVP at either the HCCO or PolyColumbus Meetup pages or the Facebook event (but not more than one of these) so we can get an accurate planned attendance. If there are sufficient RSVPs between the two Meetup pages and the Facebook event, we may consider moving the event to a larger (but substantially more expensive) venue.
About Dr. Carrier:
Richard Carrier is a world-renowned author and speaker. As a professional historian, published philosopher, and prominent defender of the American freethought movement, Dr. Carrier has appeared across the U.S., Canada and the U.K., and on American television and London radio, defending sound historical methods and the ethical worldview of secular naturalism. His books and articles have received international attention. With a Ph.D. from Columbia University in ancient history, he specializes in the intellectual history of Greece and Rome, particularly ancient philosophy, religion, and science, with emphasis on the origins of Christianity and the use and progress of science under the Roman empire. He is also a published expert in the modern philosophy of naturalism as a worldview. He is the author of On the Historicity of Jesus, Proving History, Sense and Goodness without God, Not the Impossible Faith, Why I Am Not a Christian, and Hitler Homer Bible Christ, and a contributor to The Empty Tomb, The Christian Delusion, The End of Christianity, and Christianity Is Not Great, as well as copious work in history and philosophy, online and in print. He is currently working on several upcoming projects, but also teaching affordable online courses in secular philosophy, history, and methodology at Partners for Secular Activism, and blogging and speaking about history, philosophy, feminism, and other moral causes, as well as his past in the military and his current life in polyamory.